Growing through traveling

I’m sitting on a plane traveling home from Breckenridge, CO. I’m thinking about all of the times I’ve flown on a plane in the past. As a little girl I was very fearful of everything. I had no desire to travel and I definitely had no desire to go anywhere if they spoke a different language. I would not know what anyone was saying! You see, control was extremely important to me. Most of my life I was out of control and bad things happened to me. I didn’t understand that control was the issue. I always blamed it on fear. Continue reading →

Make no mistake

We just celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary!  It was a glorious time of connecting and reminiscing over the good times and the bad times in our marriage.  I thought this title might intrigue you to read this post.  What we really want to say to all of our family and friends is…Make no mistake about it!  Marriage is hard and no matter how wonderful it looks on Facebook it’s not the entire story!  (By the way I readily admit I’m Rebekah, I’m a Facebookaholic. I can hear you all saying, “Hi Rebekah.”  All joking aside,  I love looking back over our life through facebook.) Continue reading →

A Dry Season


Well if you follow my blog you will know that it has been a long time since I’ve written. When ANOTHER person mentioned to me today that I should write, I felt God tug at my heart. I love transparent people and think it is incredibly valuable when we can be real. The past two years for me has been hard. Actually it’s been one of the hardest times I’ve had in my entire spiritual journey. I was beginning to think that the “good times” I’ve had with the Lord were over to never return. I could not feel him and I was trying my best to hang onto hope. Was I still working/counseling? Yes. And that is the amazing part. I could still see God working through me and giving me insight for my clients. Wow, does my experience back up what I teach! The real you and me is who we are in our Spirit where Jesus resides. He has promised to NEVER leave us or forsake us.  AND HE CAN WORK THROUGH US when we ask him to work through us. Continue reading →

Perfectly Imperfect Or Imperfectly Perfect

Does perfectionism affect you and your loved ones?  It’s a sneaky coping mechanism (flesh pattern) that can cause a lot of frustration, shame and pain.  The dictionary defines perfectionism 1.  as a personal standard, attitude or philosophy that demands perfection and rejects anything less. 2. Any various doctrine holding perfection is attainable.  3.  Attaining the highest degree of proficiency, skill or excellence.

Let’s dig down underneath the desire to be perfect. Continue reading →

What is truth?

There is one question that I encourage my counselee’s to ask God when they are in a state of confusion. “Father what is the truth?”  We live in a complex world with so many thoughts and passionate opinions. Can we trust our own mindset? In some cases I would say yes but in others I would say that we are not beyond being influenced by deception. Continue reading →

Are you a good receiver?

It’s the week of Christmas! GIFTS are being bought, wrapped and delivered all over the country. We have so much to be thankful for as we consider the many GIFTS we have received from family, friends and our Heavenly Father.

I’ve been thinking a lot these days about the many GIFTS we have been GIVEN by Jesus. Of course the GIFT of HIMSELF is first and foremost. That GIFT has changed everything! HE loved us enough to leave the comforts of heaven, live on this earth for 33 years and die on a cross for our sins. He came with one purpose and that was to reconcile us back to God. Continue reading →

No Shame in needing meds

I suppose this blog could be part three since it seems to be a continuation of the last two blogs.  Emotional healing from trauma is complicated.  There are many ups and downs and curves in the road.  At the beginning of the summer I believed that God was leading me to stop taking an anti depressant.  I was wrong! (Or I will find out when I get to heaven why it was necessary to take a break.)  I am a committed believer in Jesus who needs to take an anti depressant. This has become very clear to me over the past several weeks.  The inner work I have done with counselor’s have been important and extremely helpful but it did not change the chemicals in my brain.  My faith in Jesus and learning my identity in Him has been life saving and life changing but it did not change the chemicals in my brain. Continue reading →


Webster’s dictionary defines the word connect as a way to establish communication between; to join, link, or fasten together; unite or bind. Disconnect is defined as an interruption to a connection or to detach.

My last blog talked about the fact that I recently realized I had neglected regularly connecting with myself and how that affected my quality of life.  The business of life in 2017, as well as, other circumstances helped create this disconnect.  However, there is more to the story. Continue reading →


Webster’s dictionary describes neglect as: “To pay no attention or little attention to, disregard or slight, to be remiss in the care or treatment of, to omit through indifference or carelessness.”

We have all seen devastating stories on the news of children who were left in a home with no appropriate care. It’s heart wrenching to see and we find it hard to wrap our minds around anyone that could treat a child in this way. This is an extreme example of neglect.

As we think about this subject today there are many areas where neglect can cause us heartache, pain and plummet us straight into difficult circumstances. Continue reading →


James 4 tells us, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?”  As I watch passionate discussions on social media regarding politics or certain movie’s or differing beliefs James 4 keeps coming to mind.

I have been described many times through out my life as a passionate person.  The dictionary defines passionate as “having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling.”  It isn’t wrong to be a passionate person.  I believe it may just be in the DNA of some people.  It’s what we do with our intense emotions that can be right or wrong. Continue reading →

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