Perfectly Imperfect Or Imperfectly Perfect

Does perfectionism affect you and your loved ones?  It’s a sneaky coping mechanism (flesh pattern) that can cause a lot of frustration, shame and pain.  The dictionary defines perfectionism 1.  as a personal standard, attitude or philosophy that demands perfection and rejects anything less. 2. Any various doctrine holding perfection is attainable.  3.  Attaining the highest degree of proficiency, skill or excellence.

Let’s dig down underneath the desire to be perfect. Continue reading →

What is truth?

There is one question that I encourage my counselee’s to ask God when they are in a state of confusion. “Father what is the truth?”  We live in a complex world with so many thoughts and passionate opinions. Can we trust our own mindset? In some cases I would say yes but in others I would say that we are not beyond being influenced by deception. Continue reading →

Are you a good receiver?

It’s the week of Christmas! GIFTS are being bought, wrapped and delivered all over the country. We have so much to be thankful for as we consider the many GIFTS we have received from family, friends and our Heavenly Father.

I’ve been thinking a lot these days about the many GIFTS we have been GIVEN by Jesus. Of course the GIFT of HIMSELF is first and foremost. That GIFT has changed everything! HE loved us enough to leave the comforts of heaven, live on this earth for 33 years and die on a cross for our sins. He came with one purpose and that was to reconcile us back to God. Continue reading →

No Shame in needing meds

I suppose this blog could be part three since it seems to be a continuation of the last two blogs.  Emotional healing from trauma is complicated.  There are many ups and downs and curves in the road.  At the beginning of the summer I believed that God was leading me to stop taking an anti depressant.  I was wrong! (Or I will find out when I get to heaven why it was necessary to take a break.)  I am a committed believer in Jesus who needs to take an anti depressant. This has become very clear to me over the past several weeks.  The inner work I have done with counselor’s have been important and extremely helpful but it did not change the chemicals in my brain.  My faith in Jesus and learning my identity in Him has been life saving and life changing but it did not change the chemicals in my brain. Continue reading →


Webster’s dictionary defines the word connect as a way to establish communication between; to join, link, or fasten together; unite or bind. Disconnect is defined as an interruption to a connection or to detach.

My last blog talked about the fact that I recently realized I had neglected regularly connecting with myself and how that affected my quality of life.  The business of life in 2017, as well as, other circumstances helped create this disconnect.  However, there is more to the story. Continue reading →


Webster’s dictionary describes neglect as: “To pay no attention or little attention to, disregard or slight, to be remiss in the care or treatment of, to omit through indifference or carelessness.”

We have all seen devastating stories on the news of children who were left in a home with no appropriate care. It’s heart wrenching to see and we find it hard to wrap our minds around anyone that could treat a child in this way. This is an extreme example of neglect.

As we think about this subject today there are many areas where neglect can cause us heartache, pain and plummet us straight into difficult circumstances. Continue reading →


James 4 tells us, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?”  As I watch passionate discussions on social media regarding politics or certain movie’s or differing beliefs James 4 keeps coming to mind.

I have been described many times through out my life as a passionate person.  The dictionary defines passionate as “having, compelled by, or ruled by intense emotion or strong feeling.”  It isn’t wrong to be a passionate person.  I believe it may just be in the DNA of some people.  It’s what we do with our intense emotions that can be right or wrong. Continue reading →

Thoughts regarding “The Shack” (Part two)

I’m not here to defend the author of The Shack or split hairs with theologians regarding the events in the movie.  I’m simply sharing my thoughts of how this movie impacted me.  I do not agree 100% with the author, yet God has used his book/movie to grow my view of God and life.  If we ever reach the place that we stop growing, we are in a dangerous place.   Continue reading →

Thoughts regarding “The Shack” (Part One)

Yesterday Tim and I went to see the movie “The Shack” which is a movie made from a fiction book written by William P. Young.  If you have been in Christian circles over the past ten years, you will know that there is a great deal of controversy regarding many things Paul Young wrote in this book.   Continue reading →

Under His wings

No doubt, facebook has changed the temperature of community. Now everything we think ends up in black and white on a screen. We no longer have to think BEFORE we speak. We have to think BEFORE we type.  Unfortunately, few of us take the time to slow down enough to think.  And some of us suffer the consequences from the intolerant world where we reside.

As I look at our society today I am in disbelief at how diverse the body of Christ has become. Unity is far from what Jesus intended for his body. Being right has trumped being loving.  Being responsible has taken on an entirely new job description.   Continue reading →

Older Posts »