There is nothing easy about the choices that have to be made when a young single lady finds herself pregnant. I’ve been there and I understand the shock, confusion and vulnerability you feel. My heart is to help you understand the unbelievably rippling effects of the choice you will be making. I suppose the question you have to come to peace with is whether or not you are presently carrying a baby inside of your body. It’s much easier to make a convenient decision if you believe it is a mass of tissue. Will you pray and ask God to show you the truth? I could write a long commentary full of scriptures on this question, but I trust God to show you what you need to see.
What do I mean by using the words “unbelievably rippling effects?” There are several lives in question here. A child’s life, your life, the father’s life, a families life that could choose your baby. I have counseled young ladies who have made the decision to end their pregnancy since 1991. For some ladies, they struggle with emotional pain that manifest itself in many different ways for years. For others, they push the memory down deep inside but know there is a piece of their heart that has been affected forever. Yet others make it their long lost secret that they vow to never tell a soul but the guilt eats away at them. There is forgiveness and healing for those who have made this choice, but it comes through a process of acknowledging the life that ended and grieving. (See my last blog) Your Heavenly Father loves you, is with you, and is holding you in this process. If the babies father is involved in this decision he will also need to grieve and heal. Or if you both decide to keep the child, both of your lives will be changed forever. This happened to be my decision that did not come without hard times and pain, but has blessed me more than I have words to share. I now have two children and five grandchildren.
The rippling effects to the saved child is limitless. We have no idea what God’s purpose for that child will be, and how he or she will affect the world. And the lives of that child’s lineage is mind boggling as your life goes on and on in your offspring. You were a part of all this child and his or her children become by choosing life. Lastly, the rippling effect to a family that desperately wanted your child is also limitless if adoption is a choice. The relationships and life long stories affect so many for years.
If you are a believer, meaning you have chosen to repent, believe and accept the payment Jesus made on the cross for your sins; you are HIS. There are so many verses that talk about this truth. We are now a slave of righteousness and dead to sin. His laws are written on our hearts. You are deeply loved and HE is involved in every aspect of your life. Nothing takes HIM by surprise. HE lives in you and HE redeems every mistake we make if we will let HIM. And we grow personally and spiritually through these difficult times in our lives like no other time.
This is a time to trust HIM like you have never trusted HIM before. There are people that can walk with you on your journey, and God has promised to never leave or forsake you. I am praying for you as you contemplate God’s perfect will for you and your child. I am also here if you want to reach out for zoom counseling. Here are some scriptures to consider:
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; Romans 12:9-10
“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the LORD. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. Isiah 55:8-9
For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. I Cor. 6:20